So the story began… (this Blog Post is a year overdue LOL) – Happy Anniversary to US
Chef and I renewed our vows over the holidays 2015-2016. We celebrated 20 years of staring at each other. haha. How does a Chef and Event Planner go about planning an Event for themselves? Stressful Research and Planning, then throwing it all out the window.
Country: (Destination Wedding or Local – figure out what you can afford, who will not be able to attend if destination, how many guests you will eventually have)
Before even considering location, we had to decide on Country. We decided on Trinidad and Tobago, since my family is there and it would mean less of us would have to travel and not Visa restrictions etc.
Informing important Guests: (Inform guests who may need to organize travel plans and time-off from work)
Tell those who you really want to attend your plans. Hope they’re on board with the tentative plan, even if you do not have an exact date. Both my USA in-laws and my family were very excited about our plans
Timing: (Is the date special to you? Do you need to consider the rest of the group)
Our actual Anniversary is January 12th. However, we decided to hold the renewal between Christmas and New Year’s because our family would be able to take off from work then. Since we would all be taking the week off, we had time decide on the actual date.
Location: (Finding the Venue that suits you and your vision)
Trying to figure out what we wanted to do was probably the most difficult part of this process. Something I talk about with my clients. Unless you are honest with yourself and have a clear “tentative plan” of what you want to happen, you will find yourself all over the place searching out venues.
I spent a lot of time on the internet, researching places. Then calling my siblings and Trini friends to ask their advice. Oh another piece of advice: Don’t listen to anybody else!!! Their idea of a “perfect event, or location etc” is totally different to your vision and this will also drive you crazy. However, not being physically there, it did help to get feedback on locations while ignoring their opinions. LOL
Once we decided upon a Venue, Chef and I had the task of having to deal with the Catering and Reception Plans
Reception (be true to yourself. Host and Event which will reflect who you are)
So let me just start by saying, we didn’t want a Reception. Chef and I are so low-key and laid back, the thought of hiring a Caterer, Decorator and all the other frills necessary, was just really stressing us out. We didn’t want any of that. OK OK! Truth be told, we bitched about the Food and the Decor LOL.
So we did what we always do, hosted our DAY OUR WAY!
Booked rooms in a Resort for the entire family, We wrote our Vows, bought Champagne in Duty Free when we landed, order Pastelles from a friend, hired a photographer (important), ordered LOCAL flowers for my bouquet and his boutonniere and one of my best friend surprised us with a cake.
Folks dressed up, others dressed down and a few in between, Toes in the Sand were mandatory…..
We stood on a beach, recited our vows and then one by one, our family and friends shared what OUR UNION meant to them. We cried, we drank, we ate and then we swam.
Magical things occur when a Chef marries an Event Planner.